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Your Opportunity Cost

University business professors and people in general love to talk about opportunity cost. The semi-rhetorical question, “Should Bill Gates mow his own lawn?” is the tried and true lead-in to a lengthy discussion of how much he makes per year, then per day, and finally per hour. Inevitably the professor and students conclude that if Bill were to mow his lawn, it would be the most foolish mistake imaginable to the human race.

There are two real questions here (and a third raised for us personally by the discussion):

    1. Are we talking exclusively about what results in a person’s earning/saving/netting the maximum amount of money?
    2. Should we take into account “softer” opportunity costs such as quality of life (e.g., time spent with family, on hobbies, etc.)?
    3. How do I decide whether to do something myself or to pay someone else to do it?

Maximizing Net Increase

If we are talking about the situation in which a person earns or saves the maximum amount of money, then in certain cases — even for high wage earners — it might make sense for Bill Gates to mow his own lawn. What if Bill’s schedule includes some discretionary time during which he didn’t intend to earn any money? He could mow the lawn and save the money he would have spent having someone else do it, thereby “netting” the maximum amount of money given the circumstances.

However, if he were paid by the hour and he took time when he could/should have been working, there’s a very measurable and direct opportunity cost. There would also be a strong financial disincentive associated with his mowing the lawn.

The “Softer” Costs

What does Bill give up in order to mow his lawn? If it’s monetary in nature it’s usually referred to as “opportunity cost”, and if it’s a “softer” cost it might be more accurately referred to as “sacrifice”. If by mowing the lawn Bill misses an opportunity to attend his son’s little league game, or to enjoy dinner with his wife, or to take a vacation with family and friends, that’s a very real (though difficult to quantify) cost. He would be sacrificing something relatively more enjoyable for something less enjoyable.

These circumstances require less logic and more personal judgment because each of us has our own set of values and priorities. That’s why decision making — when based exclusively on monetary opportunity costs — is not usually the best approach

“Build vs. Buy”, Sort Of

For the rest of us who don’t earn money at a monstrous hourly clip, our opportunity cost is much lower than it is for Bill. Let’s consider the following set of conditions:

    • your car needs some work that you’re capable of doing
    • you have several hours one evening when the rest of your family (and friends) are asleep or otherwise occupied and won’t miss your company, nor will you miss theirs
    • your job doesn’t compensate you for work done away from the office or after hours
    • you have no side businesses where you earn a dependable hourly rate for your efforts
    • you hadn’t intended to exercise, study, or relax
    • in short, there would have been several hours that evening that would have completely gone to waste

Given the above situation, why would you not take advantage of the chance to save yourself some money? Since repairing the car has essentially no opportunity cost, there’s no reason not to do it. Change any of the conditions described above and the decision becomes (at least a little) more difficult.

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Let’s consider the following scenario:

    • your lawn needs to be mowed and from past experience you know it will take you one hour
    • you’d much rather spend time with your family, but you also like to be careful with your money
    • you know a kid who mows lawns and he charges $15 for yours
    • your company pays you “time” for hours worked beyond 40 in a normal work week and you make $30/hour

Given those details, it probably makes much more sense to work (for your employer) for a half hour than to mow the lawn. Ignoring income tax, you’ll earn enough to pay the lawn-mowing kid and have an extra 30 minutes to spend with your family. You break even financially and net free time.

Other Considerations

Beyond strict monetary opportunity cost, there’s also personal preference. We have things that we enjoy and things we’d rather not do. That will color our decision-making process. The lower the financial opportunity cost, and the greater the emotional opportunity cost (i.e., the difference between how much we prefer doing one thing instead of another), the more likely we are to go with what we really want to do.

Safety shouldn’t be completely ignored either. If you need to do something that has a high risk and/or high likelihood of failure, it probably makes sense to pay someone to do it.

Conclusion

Because there are so many details that can factor into a decision, opportunity cost alone won’t determine the most appropriate course of action for us. Usually we don’t literally trade one money-making hour for another of equal or lesser value. Instead we are forced to weigh the pro’s and con’s and for most of us that means we’re better off (at least financially) doing the work ourselves, unless it’s something we really hate.

Check out these posts for other bloggers’ opinions and some lively comments!

“The Weekend Is Over”

John (not his real name) was our transportation director at work. He was a fun guy and we enjoyed joking back and forth on a regular basis with the other coworkers who sat near us. His philosophy on weekends wasn’t intentionally pessimistic, but it did bring me down whenever he shared it. Unfortunately, he shared it quite often which is why I can quote it essentially word for word.

“Yeah, the weekend is essentially over Friday night when I go to bed. I take the wife out to dinner Friday night, then go home and have a nice glass of wine and a cigar. All day Saturday I’ll be working in the yard and on my wife’s ‘honey do’ list. And Sunday I’m getting ready to come back into the office the next day.”

That was the gospel according to John. His is a somewhat practical way of looking at the weekend, but I’m not especially fond of it. He’s letting unpleasant thoughts overshadow and ruin a potentially enjoyable time.

On the other hand, I’m the guy who eats the crust portion of the sandwich first so the middle is more enjoyable. I eat the edge pieces of brownies first for the same reason. When I go sledding, I prefer hills where you park at the bottom so the hike up comes before the ride down.

You get the idea: I like to get the unpleasant part out of the way first so I can really savor the good part. Not having the bad hang ominously over the good makes life more enjoyable.

The great thing about the “good part” vs. “bad part” is that it’s mostly in our minds. We control what we focus on and how we approach a situation.

Admittedly, Sunday evenings find me preparing mentally for the next day at work. But I enjoy the weekends more than John, and mine are 48 hours longer!

My (Slow-Paced) Quest To Increase Blog Traffic

I’ve only been blogging for a couple of months, but I’m really enjoying it. Writing is a great outlet for me personally. I especially like conducting online research before finishing a new post because I’m learning with you, my wonderful readers (I mean that).

Some of my traffic-increasing efforts have been more successful than other. Please make any and all suggestions for helping me increase traffic because I’m anxious to hear what has worked for you!

The basic plan I have for ThoughtfulConsideration.com is this:

  • Present fresh, high-quality posts that will be of interest to you
  • Share new ideas and perspectives and make you think a little bit
  • Generate traffic through the above bullet points
  • Monetize that traffic with my first goal being to recover my costs (domain name registration and web hosting), starting with Google Adsense

All the posts I’ve read on creating a successful blog have talked about being patient in the beginning and focusing on creating valuable content that will bring in (and bring back) visitors. After two months of working toward that goal, I’m anxious to see an increase in my traffic.

Up to this point I’ve taken the following steps to increase traffic:

  • Participating in Blog Carnivals/Festivals — this is a lot of fun because it brings together fellow bloggers who have similar interests and creates a sense of community
  • Bought an online ad — After reading Silicon Valley Blogger’s post (Million Dollar Home Pages Galore) I broke down and paid $12 for an ad on www.JustAddADollar.com. It was capricious and probably not money well spent, but I thought I’d give it a shot. So far that has given me fewer than five clicks in more than a week. On the one hand, that’s not a lot of traffic. On the other hand, my ad still has the top (and most visible) spot!
  • Occasionally commenting on other blogs — this isn’t something that I’ve made a major practice of, but as often as people are kind enough to leave comments on my blog, I try to both respond below their comment and read/comment on one or more of their posts on their blog.
  • Link Exchange — two people have approached me about link exchanges and I’ve been more than happy to participate. Both blogs have great information and I’m pleased to see some (albeit fairly minimal) traffic through that method.
  • Blog Directories — I went a little crazy on this one, spending a couple of hours registering on (and submitting my blog to) as many as I could find. So far, the traffic hasn’t been anything too substantial but I think it’s been beneficial. Some of those links show up in Google search results, but strangely not as back links.
  • Linking to other blogs — many sites allow pingbacks which gives you another inbound link which helps for both SEO and bringing in new visitors.
  • Some minimal SEO (search engine optimization)
    • removing extra text (“e-mail this post” and “print this post”) at the beginning of posts because it was showing up in the Google search results and displacing the actual content
    • using the Optimal Title WordPress plug-in
    • changing my permalink convention to something more meaningful than the default
  • Inter-linking posts on my blog and using the Related Posts WordPress plug-in

In addition to continuing to use the above methods, here’s what I’m planning to try next:

  • Hosting an occasional Blog Carnival/Festival
  • Using Technorati.com tags in my posts (I’m still not sure why I haven’t started this sooner)
  • Commenting more on other people’s blogs
  • Linking to more blogs (when relevant) for pingbacks
  • Do more linkbaiting (i.e., writing more “bookmarkable” posts)
  • More SEO

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I’m a little frustrated with the following thing:

  • Google.com – even though I did finally get my sitemap working properly and my pages are being indexed, Google isn’t taking note of any “back links”. Even Technorati.com says that I have 13 links from 11 blogs, and I know that I have quite a few more inbound links than that which Google should be picking up. I’ve conducted some research to try to determine why Google hasn’t noticed my links, but as of now, this still remains a mystery.

Here are a few more posts I’ve enjoyed where people discuss methods of increasing traffic:

Please do leave any suggestions that you have regarding non-deceptive, free ways to increase blog traffic. I’m especially hoping you’ll share techniques that have worked well for you.

Book Review: 1-2-3 Magic

Our son is generally well behaved, but sometimes exhibits behavior that is unacceptable. Being young parents, we didn’t have extensive experience to draw upon, and often found ourselves simply threatening (and making good the promise) to take away toys when he misbehaved.

Wanting to enjoy our kids more led us to solicit recommendations from family and friends. That’s how we came across 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. From what I’m told, it’s not all that dissimilar from the techniques in SOS: Help For Parents which we also own, but have not yet read. I apologize in advance for the extensive quoting, but some thoughts were tough to paraphrase.

The book is divided into five parts:

  1. Straight Thinking (chapters 1-4)
  2. Controlling Obnoxious Behavior (chapters 5-9)
  3. No Child Will Thank You (chapters 10-12)
  4. Encouraging Good Behavior (chapters 13-20)
  5. Strengthening Your Relationship (chapters 21-26)

So far I’ve only made it through the first three parts of the book. We’re anxious to get this started in our house with the hope that we’ll curb the misbehavior that we’re currently experiencing. I expect to post an update at some point, and I’ll need to provide a synopsis of the remaining chapters.

The book begins by outlining two types of behavior:

  1. Stop behavior: when your child is “doing something you want them to Stop” (e.g., whining, teasing, arguing, pouting, yelling, tantrums, etc.)
  2. Start behavior: when your child is “not doing something you would like [him/her] to Start” (e.g., picking up, eating, homework, bedtime, up and out, etc.)

One quote from Chapter 10 accurately summarizes the approach for Stop behavior: “No Talking, No Emotion, be gentle but [firm] and when in doubt, count.”

The book describes and advocates a form of discipline that keep the parent in charge, but it includes “no arguing, yelling, or spanking.” Dr. Phelan attempts to keep the steps simple so they’re easily implemented, even in moments of frustration and stress. A “consistent, decisive, and calm” approach is easier for the parents and the kids; the parents know how to respond, and the kids know what to expect.

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Showing no emotion was a new idea to me because I had previously thought that it was an effective way of demonstrating to him when we didn’t approve of his behavior. Unfortunately, his behavior didn’t ever improve the way that we thought it should. We have never spanked or yelled abusively, but the book interestingly points out that most displays of emotion on the part of the parents are simply adult temper tantrums.

Though the author doesn’t specifically mention it, I think refraining from laughter is an important part of not showing emotion. Children will (reasonably) misinterpret that response as at least partially condoning their bad behavior or sassy response.

I am also one of the people Dr. Phelan describes in Chapter 3 as operating with the “Little Adult Assumption.” That is the name for the tendency of some parents to believe “that kids have hearts of gold and that they are basically reasonable and unselfish.” The assumption also makes people think “that [the kids] don’t have enough information at their disposal to be able to do the right thing.”

This particular misconception was evident in our post-timeout conversations with our son that involved detailed descriptions of good and bad behavior, culminating in his promising to never do that same thing again. We mistakenly thought that appealing to our son’s logic and reason were the surest way to proper discipline, a myth that the book dispels (and our experience has sadly disproved). The book encourages the use of a single explanation, if necessary. It also warns, “It’s the attempts at repeated explanations that get adults and children in trouble.” He considers this approach parental begging.

Dr. Phelan also describes how kids feel inferior, primarily because they are inferior in virtually every way to adults. “They don’t like it. They do like to feel that they are powerful and capable of making some mark on the world.” In that sense children are not all that different from adults, though they are usually less capable of making their mark.

He goes on to describe how small children love throwing rocks into water because they can see a visible response to their action, something my son demonstrated just a day or two after I read that chapter. Dr. Phelan likens the ripples on the water to the emotional waves that children sometimes cause in their parents. Even though the parental emotion isn’t usually the best kind, it is a result that kids can directly attribute to their behavior. “If you have a child who is doing something you don’t like, get real upset about it on a regular basis and, sure enough, she’ll repeat it for you.”

You’ll need to read the book for the details of his approach and his great examples, but I especially liked this paragraph in Chapter 5:

After the time out is served, you will not believe what happens next. Nothing! No talking, no emotion, no apologies, no lectures, no discussions. Nothing is said unless it is absolutely necessary, which is usually not the case.

We have long recognized our difficulty handling undesirable behavior at times when others are watching such as when we’re in public, on the phone, or at home with guests. Children are amazingly perceptive and can easily sense that mom and dad are more susceptible (easily taken advantage of) in such moments. Fortunately the book outlines some tactics (more than a full chapter, in fact!) for dealing with just such situations.

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Basically, you’ll either be consistent, decisive, and calm, or you won’t. Especially when first starting the method, you must show your children that you’re both dedicated and serious. There will be trying times and the kids will learn whether or not you’ll break under pressure. Sometimes you’ll need to decide between one of the three correct courses of action: “Gut it out and finish your shopping (you will feel foolish), [or] take the child out to the car until he does stop screaming, or go home.”

So far we’re really enjoying the book, and we’re hopeful that Dr. Phelan’s method will be effective in restoring a bit more peace and quiet in our home. Here’s hoping that it goes well; nobody ever said that properly disciplining your children would be convenient (or easy)!

Truth In Advertising

My mother forwarded this to me and it was too funny not to share . . .

Truth In Advertising